By Cara Cholewczynski
There is not much that sends my eyelids twitching than hearing strong women degrade and dismiss other women. Maybe some are content with the way things are, they’re okay with the double standards laid before us by the society we live in, and reinforced by men...and even worse, other women.
What is deemed the “walk of shame”, is a common scene on college campuses. Admit it, you have probably seen a woman walking home in the early hours of the morning wearing the dress from the night before and carrying her heels. Her outfit of choice makes her an easy target. Nobody sees a man do that and thinks that they are coming home from a wild night of promiscuous sex. But for women, that is the first thought that pops into the heads of passerby.
The problem with this is that women, young women, feel the need to degrade and comment on the scene laid before them. We rationalize things that so it is only mildly scandalous when we do it, but god forbid somebody else spend the night with a hook up buddy or one night stand.
We live in a hyper sexualized society where celebrities have sex tapes and we watch music videos where women with voluptuous asses bounce them up and down while having hundred dollar bills thrown into the air . Why is sex only acceptable in the mainstream media and lives of celebrities?
Personally, I think it stems from the fact that we learn from an early age that sex is somehow “sacred”, and that if you have sex your heart is going to be broken, or you are going to get pregnant....and die. Much of this mindset is directed towards girls, because once again society makes excuses for boys because they are hormone filled animals who just “can’t control themselves”.
We take our own fears, and our own regressions and police other people because we don’t want to face the facts. We don’t want to face the fact that (gasp!) WOMEN CAN LOVE SEX TOO. We feel the need to pass judgement those doing (what I would rather refer to it as...) the walk of pride. The adults in our lives who are responsible for teaching us these things would rather pile drive a negative connotation onto sex in the hopes of deterring us from it than speak in a matter of fact way.
We also have a standard of labeling the girl who enjoys sex a slut, because it is seen as a dirty thing and the more you have it the dirtier of a woman you are. The double standard that has become such the norm has a long way to go from being thrown away. Little by little it can be broken down though...
So ladies, next time you hear the label “slut” being thrown onto the girl who is just walking her ass all the way home because she got some booty... stop and think about it first. Women are allowed to love consensual sex and orgasms just as much as the guys and damnit, we probably enjoy it more than they do.
There is not much that sends my eyelids twitching than hearing strong women degrade and dismiss other women. Maybe some are content with the way things are, they’re okay with the double standards laid before us by the society we live in, and reinforced by men...and even worse, other women.
What is deemed the “walk of shame”, is a common scene on college campuses. Admit it, you have probably seen a woman walking home in the early hours of the morning wearing the dress from the night before and carrying her heels. Her outfit of choice makes her an easy target. Nobody sees a man do that and thinks that they are coming home from a wild night of promiscuous sex. But for women, that is the first thought that pops into the heads of passerby.
The problem with this is that women, young women, feel the need to degrade and comment on the scene laid before them. We rationalize things that so it is only mildly scandalous when we do it, but god forbid somebody else spend the night with a hook up buddy or one night stand.
We live in a hyper sexualized society where celebrities have sex tapes and we watch music videos where women with voluptuous asses bounce them up and down while having hundred dollar bills thrown into the air . Why is sex only acceptable in the mainstream media and lives of celebrities?
Personally, I think it stems from the fact that we learn from an early age that sex is somehow “sacred”, and that if you have sex your heart is going to be broken, or you are going to get pregnant....and die. Much of this mindset is directed towards girls, because once again society makes excuses for boys because they are hormone filled animals who just “can’t control themselves”.
We take our own fears, and our own regressions and police other people because we don’t want to face the facts. We don’t want to face the fact that (gasp!) WOMEN CAN LOVE SEX TOO. We feel the need to pass judgement those doing (what I would rather refer to it as...) the walk of pride. The adults in our lives who are responsible for teaching us these things would rather pile drive a negative connotation onto sex in the hopes of deterring us from it than speak in a matter of fact way.
We also have a standard of labeling the girl who enjoys sex a slut, because it is seen as a dirty thing and the more you have it the dirtier of a woman you are. The double standard that has become such the norm has a long way to go from being thrown away. Little by little it can be broken down though...
So ladies, next time you hear the label “slut” being thrown onto the girl who is just walking her ass all the way home because she got some booty... stop and think about it first. Women are allowed to love consensual sex and orgasms just as much as the guys and damnit, we probably enjoy it more than they do.
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